Your special someone may not be as far away as you think …
It seems on a daily basis single men and women ask me how and where are the best places to meet other single people. If what you’re looking for is someone to date and possibly more, then it’s probably important that you meet someone who shares some of the interests and activities you enjoy. It’s my opinion, the best way to meet other single people is while you’re out living your life and doing all the things you love.
The secret is to interact with people… Yes, that’s right. You can’t go blindly about your day and expect someone to knock you down and ask you out on a date. Most people just aren’t that brave. You have to put yourself out there a bit. Rather than looking at someone as dating, relationship or even marriage potential rather think of someone who shares you interests as a new friend you just haven’t met.
You might read this and think, “Well ya that’s easy for people who are outgoing and find it easy to talk to strangers, but what about shy people like me”? When you focus on the things you like to do and look at other people who also enjoy doing those things, as a new friend you just haven’t met, there’s a better chance you might strike up a conversation with that person.
You might also be saying, “I’m a pretty outgoing and friendly person and I still can’t seem to meet anyone”. I would ask you, when was the last time you smiled at someone and said hello just because. We’re all busy and on our way to somewhere, an appointment, work, or picking up the kids, with the “to do” list running through our minds. We put our heads down and get going. If you’re not maximizing situations where you’re interacting with people then you’re definitely limiting your chances of meeting other singles.
Here are some fun suggestions:
Smile at someone everyday. You might just make their day.
Smile back at someone who smiles first. They’ve made the first effort
Hold the door for someone.Showing you have manners is always a great start
Let someone go ahead of you in line. That person might be in a bigger hurry than you
Strike up a conversation with someone in line with you. Everyone enjoys friendly conversation while waiting in line
Are you getting the idea? Meeting new people and putting yourself out there can make someone else’s day. When you give away positive energy, you get that energy back 100 fold. When you start to learn to be outgoing and friendly, this shows that you’re fun and happy. People like to hang out with fun and happy people.
There are lots of places and common ways to meet like minded people:
Coffee shops, while you’re out for a bike ride, net working events, single parents group, social gathering, house parties, while out for a walk or hike, skiing/snowboarding, the art gallery, boating, walking the dog, taking the kids to the park, head to the library to do some research rather than your home computer, take a class, join a club... this list is endless.
Now go outside and meet someone new today!